He has a girlfriend!!

[Sugar&spice]

Ok, i really like this guy; he's sweet and nice and we get on really well, i often thinks he likes me too, The problem is he already has a girlfriend. Usually in this situation i would just give up and move on but with him we really seem to connect. i usually go for and go out with guys who then dont treat me very well, so this is the first time ive fancied someone who i know isnt like that. What should i do? Give up or keep trying? Please help!

[ChocolatChip]

No, you'll get yourself in more trouble.
Basically, if he likes you that much then he'll dump hids girlfriend won't he?

[Drisgirl]

^^^ -totally agree -he has to finish his relationship first -overlapping just causes stress and grief and hurt to everyone concerned.

Also at the end of the day even tho you wont think it now but if you did get with him you know he's a lying cheating bastarsd and who is to tell he wont do the same to you..........

[Sugar&spice]

ok, hang-on. I may like him now but i would never do anything about it as he has a girlfriend and i know he wouldnt either. I'm being subtle and haven't said to him that i like him or anything. So i'm not in any way being a boyfriend-stealer! I just like him and dont know whether to give up...

[ChocolatChip]

Well say that you like him, to him, privately. Then like I said if he likes you (more than his girlfriend) then he'll leave his girlfriend.

[Drisgirl]

Sorry thats not how it came across -my post still remains for anyone who is in a similar dilemna but has gone further.

BTW S & S and honestly I mean well -can you tell me how you discovered that he wasnt just someone who you got on really well with -if he hasnt reciproctated then there cant be a connection type connection -surely thats just clicking with someone and geting on with them.

I get on with people and they are on my wavelength but I dont fancy them -get my drift?

[Louisa 69]

I think you need to walk away on this one. As you say he's got a girlfriend, so there would be no point in telling him how you feel.

[cazzzz1975]

The ball is in his court, If he likes you he will end his relationship first. Personally I would not pursue a man who already has a girlfriend, chemistry aside the ball is in his court if something will happen.

I wouldnt keep trying, get some healthy space from this and you may see things much clearer.

[Poison-Ivy]

Isn't it an unwritten rule that woman don't tread on anothers toes.... you may not have done yet.. but will you if the opportunity arises.. i'm thinking maybe u would.

[Sugar&spice]

Ok thanks guys

You've been really great help, and yer, i think i'll back off now, try again when he's available! :-)

In answer to Drisgirl, its not like a normal friendly connection you get with most people, it's different (Cheesy!) but maybe thats just me. So im going to stay mates but move on, or try!

Thanks so much for the advice!
Love as always
S&S
xxxx

[andy-hughes]

I don't think you have to put yourself in an 'either / or' situation at this stage.

If you like him, and you get on, why not continue your reltionship - it's up to him if he decides to move it further. That will work fine if you are comfortable with it.

If however you are fretting about wanting something more than friendship - that is the time to walk away.

As it stands, you are doing nothing wrong, so why loose a friend, and a possible future relationship?

Take it a day at a time.

[ginger85]

if you really like this guy i think you should let him knowhowyou feel but you have to be prepared forthe consequence of your actions if his gfriend finds out. but also consider how you would feel if you were in her shoes .

[heart braker]

Id say sleep with him and if he doesnt leave his girlfriend after that then he isnt serious about you.

[jojojojoanne]

heart breaker goes in for the kill...........................lol

[Sugar&spice]

Gravitate, what are you doing about that can i ask? Staying with your gf or are you going to see which you prefer. Or is it just a bit of fun!? lol

[4G5]

have you slept with him? If not sleep with him and if he doesnt dump his gf then he isnt serious and finish it. Sleeping with him will be the decider.