I love him..

[hippyhoppy]

but he's married - what's a girl to do..? step back or make a move..?

[cazzz1975]

do agree jno, some men can get panicky when their other halves are pregnant, it may be a knee jerk reaction to the stress and enormity of the situation.

things may change for him when the baby is here, he may not feel the same way. he might need to get his head around dealing with the whole pregnancy business

it would be unwise to interfere for now

[Scarlett]

Don't go there. He's married. Not to you. If he is that unhappy with his wife, wait until they are divorced. If they don't get divorced, he is clearly okay with it.

[smudge]

Further to my previous post about you trying hard not to think about this fella - think about how you would feel if you were his wife & carrying his baby?

Easy Q to ask, but not so easy to answer I know, but please try to put that in the forefront of your mind & hopefully it may help you 'see the light'.

[Octavius]

What amazes me is that it takes two to tango.

If he is making a play on you, then from the outset you must have known that he was a married man looking for some sidelong action whilst he wasn�t getting any at home. It happens, most women will tell them to eff off.

If you made a play on him, then sorry love but you are the bad �un.

I completely agree with jno, whilst my wife is heavily pregnant, affection, attention and hows-your-father are way way on the back burner, but I would never cheat on her. Once the baby arrives he will go all goo-goo-ga-ga and cast you aside like one of the nappies he is stocking up on.

[andy-hughes]

I can appreciate what you say Octavius - especially from your personal experience - but I have to repeat my argument - love is never simple, and hippyhoppy probably knows, and agrees with all the rational arguments why she should not be involved. But her heart has involved her anyway, and it's not listening to any of us, or indeed her - so that is why she is in this situation.

I sympathise deeply, and I know she is struggling, so we need to be as compassionate as we can for her.

[adam-baby]

he is a arse, you deserve far better and if he has a thread of decency he will want u to be happy, the only way i can see you being happy is by forgetting him.

remember your a fantastic person and any man would be lucky to be with you.

the people on here are right about him but what they said about you is wrong, you have been drawn into something that you are not responsible for, u didnt know he was married or had a baby on the way . please remember this i hope you meet someone deserving of you xx

[jock.strap]

he sounds a right tit.