Mum's birthday yesterday

[RatchetP]

My mum died 5 years ago and it was her birthday yesterday. I still miss her. Does anyone know how long it takes to get over losing a parent?

[ummmm]

I don't think you ever get over it.

[daftgrandad]

My mother died in 1976 after a long illness.
I dont think you can ever really get over it,although as is said "time is a great healer.
I personally feel it more,on the anniversary of her birthday and at Christmas

[pastafreak]

I agree....you don't. It just gets a wee bit easier over time. I remember the first time I 'forgot' the anniversary of her death...I was inconsolable.But I later realised that this was part of the healing process, as we need to live in the now.And maybe it is better to remember the good times,rather than such a dark day.
Just give it time-you will be fine.

[ethandron]

you never get over it, you just learn to live with it. i think time does heal the raw grief, but it's always there just under the surface.

[LoftyLottie]

I do think the initial grief passes over time but that never stops us missing that person. My dad died almost 30 years ago but I still miss him and probably always will. My Mum died last year and I miss her more now than I did initially because arranging funerals and dealing with everything including major family illness. meant I never really had time to sit back and grieve properly. I will always miss her too.

[marval]

I think you will always miss her, I am not sure you ever totally get over a loved ones death. Time is supposed to be a great healer, but my Mother died last February, and I am not looking forward to the anniversary of that. I have good days and bad days still, and as LoftyLottie says being busy with the funeral does not really give you the time to grieve properly. My Father died five years before , and I still miss him. Just remember the good times you had, and all the memories, I don't think there can ever be a set time it takes.

[brenda]

In a word --never, but the pain of your loss does ease a little over time.

[smudge]

I know just how you feel Ratchel, bless you. -x-

My Dad died in 1994 & Mum died, 20 months later, in 1996.

I still miss them both very much & would love just one more cup of tea & a chat with them, but I have to do with the wonderful memories I have of them in my heart. -x-

[Mamyalynne]

Ratchet there is no measure as all have said, try to do something special that you would both have enjoyed on those memorable days.

Take good care
Mamya♥

[horselady]

As the others have said, you never get over it, even now, 25 years after losing my Mum, I still wish I could ring her and tell her things the kids have done and tell her all about the great-grandchildren she never met. I do wish I had appreciated her more and especially not been such a cow to her when I was an obnoxious teenager.

[kilkenny]

Hi
i found it was not get over it but more coming to terms. The loss will always be sad but I found the grief lessened with time.

You will always miss those who you loved and held dear to you but the hurt will lessen in time

Kilkenny

[piggynose]

i know how you feel, i lost my mom 7 yrs ago, the only way i deal with the sorrow, is to talk to her,

[Naomicorlett]

My mum died 2 1/2 years ago and my dad ( who lived with us for 15 years ) 8 months later .( They were divorced many years ago ) . I can only repeat what other people have said ------ You do not get over it but do come to terms with it. I still cry over silly things and dream about them . I light candles for them both and not neccesarily on significant dates.

[boxtops]

please ignore my posting, not appropriate, I thought I was responding to another querstion - sorry! (and yes, I know how you feel - my mum died seven years ago - she's still on my mind, but it does get easier. It's when something catches me unawares that I feel it most.)

[spindle666]

i lost my father in march 09 and my mother in april 09 i will never get over losing them. my son was 6 weeks old when my father went his first grandchild and 10 weeks when mum went i will never really get over losing them love them both