men's advice needed

[hippyhoppy]

met this chap a couple of weeks ago.. he persued me (which was quite adorable).. however Wednesday he had a funeral of a favourite uncle.. and since has been distant. sent me a text tonight to day his 'head all over the place' and that he'd call me tomorrow... do I reply to his text or leave it for him to contact me again... don't want to overwhelm the chap!!

[4getmenot]

so weird, I had exactly same thing happen to me a few years ago. met him through work over phone calls and met up with him, we ended up going clubbing and he stayed over but I wouldnt put out lol So following week I got same kind of text saying he was at a funeral etc etc.... never heard from him after that.

[4getmenot]

Oh and no I'm not a gay man I'm just a nosey female who wanted to answer

[Eve]

Maybe he feels to be having fun with you would be inappropriate while he is grieving?

Maybe just give him some time and see how things play out, maybe just a quick acknowledgement txt saying something like "no worries, thinking of you" or similar and see if he does call you so he isn't worrying you are ruffled around the boa with him etc...

[hippyhoppy]

Cheers chicks.. Don't want to 'overwhelm' him!!

[northernmonkey]

well you try him once if fails to make any effort with you and remains distant then is something about him and clearly would be time for moving on and putting him down as strange experience

[China Doll]

Just say 'around if needed'.... The man hostage had a death in the family before I met him, bit of time needed and all that. If he's still interested a couple of weeks later all well and good and if not then not great for you. Tis a judgement call I think... We can only advise but you have the facts. Good luck!

[mike11111]

Ruffled about the boa? I've just seen that phrase in an answer to another thread. Please explain and put an old man out of his misery.

[hippyhoppy]

Jen - gonna go with that...

[ummmm]

If he's anything like me it's gonna take a while to get his head straight. As it's a really new relationship he might not want to get emotional in front of you.

[AlBags]

So you sure he's not married .. or has kids ..?
Were you an outlet for some "get away from it all" routine, do you think?