Brutally Honest?

[ToraToraTora]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2333830/Big-NOT-beautiful-Apprentice-Kate-Hopkins-This-Morning-ITV-Rachel-Cooper-Wherry.html
As a BMI challenged person myself I think she is spot on. It's not easy but she is ultimately correct. I've never deluded myself I know I must work to stay less than Elephantine, many however have a variety of excuses none of which exempt people from the basic laws of physics.

[joko]

thing is though, if someone wants to overeat and not exercise and is 'content' to allow their weight to creep up, and when its up, they are 'content' to stay that way - then that's up to them - they are entitled to do that and no-one has any right to tell them to sort it out.

Same as smoking, anorexia, etc etc - its up to them - its bad for them, but they're adults and its their choice - the problem lies when it begins to hurt others - as smoking does.

The problem is all this business of claiming its ok, and they're happy and love the way they look.
everyone is afraid to say anything for fear of upsetting someone - it promotes the idea that they can be that way and be totally healthy and fine so they don't need to address it.

remember the trend a few years ago to be bony thin? 'heroin chic' etc

i do not believe any fat person would pass the old 'magic wand' test ... that if a wand could be waved and they could be thin, that they would not take the offer.

[jim360]

In general I suppose I have to agree with "they're adults, it's what they want to do" -- but anorexia particularly in teenagers is rarely a free choice and is often a sign of serious mental health issues, and I don't think that many anorexic adults are that different. So we shouldn't necessarily just ignore these problems -- overeating, too, can be a response to other problems in life "Comfort eating" is a thing.

If we're satisfied that there are no such problems (and I'm not calling for a probing and intensive interview to establish this) then we can advise, but it is ultimately their choice as long as it doesn't affect others.