Just A Bit Unfair

[pips1]

I will probably get some stick for this but here goes! A loss of a husband is a loss/bereavement however the circumstances in which they leave. Obviously a death is final and heartbreaking and I feel sorry in my heart for people who have suffered this way, but when they leave you by choice you have rejection and unbearable hurt thrown into the mix, you suffer agonies seeing them with 'the other woman'.

My friend just lost her husband to cancer, he was only in his 50s and it was terrible. She owns the home they shared, she had help with the funeral, she has a widows pension, a holiday home and a job. I am retired and struggling in a rented house with no help off anyone and I have just discovered my ex is helping my friend with everything. He is there at the moment doing her garden while she is on holiday. I swear I do not begrudge her the help as she has suffered a terrible loss but why can't women who have been abandoned get the same kind of care?

[ummmm]

We are just humans. We don't handle rejection well.

[Dee Sa]

My hubby died last year, I will be okay financially as long as I dont go mad and curb my tendency to spend but I would give up everything to spend just onE more day together.people have been very kind to me and I do appreciate their help.sent from the Algarve staying with old friends