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Hey Smowball, Ha ha. Glad it made you smile :-) I did have the big chat with him yes. It actually went a lot better than I thought and things have been less er demanding since! He felt like I wasn't making any time for him and that I was always busy with other things, work the kids etc. I told him none of that will ever change but I would put in more effort and spend more time with him. I did actually start by saying I'm not sure it's going anywhere but we both came to the conclusion that we enjoy each others company - when he's not pestering me. I won't be introducing him to the kids at any time soon as I genuinely don't think things will ever be at a point where I want him to play an active part in their lives. He says he really wants to meet them and suggests us doing things together over the weekend but I don't really want him to see that side of me. Besides, their father would hit the roof if he thought someone else was trying to muscle in on playing dad!
So yeah, all in all it went ok. We have a giggle and that's about it. I think we'd be better of as friends with benefits but even that gets complicated!