Thanks all for the sympathy!
Back from the strangest funeral ever, no coffin,(she's going to Palma to be cremated or maybe there already!) church too crowded so most of us (at least 2 whole villages) just stood outside, not hearing or seeing anything, but then we all queued up to condole the family, well I have never seen such pain in a father's eyes, I'm welling up again thinking of him, awful.
My feet were killing me in high heels, so Mr N took me to a little spanish bar where we ate tapas (octopus, not squid, prawns in garlic, salted sardines with toms on bread, olives and squid rings in batter!) we also had two beers, feel better now and am in bed with a coffee and some Dime sweeties (Daim overhere). Still can't believe about my bro in law hasn't hit me yet!