Cheating Spouse

[GlitteryWings]

Has anyone managed to move on from a cheating spouse?

Ive recently been breaved within the past month (very close) and then found out my partner has had sex once with someonelse.......... in our home.

Im grieving BOTH situations, not sure if I am numb , id like to try to move on, currently feel as if I can.... this may change when I am thinking straight.

[GlitteryWings]

Theland- I would be a liar if I said that I have not considered “making him stew” at one point and be late home. (Even though I wouldnt ever cheat!)

[Mamyalynne]

I wouldn't recommend playing games, unless you really do want your relationship to be over.

Tell him you need time to take stock and grieve then sit down together and talk calmly to see if there is something to be salvaged.

[Sqad]

Glittering wings.

"Even though I wouldnt ever cheat!)"

Given the right place, the right time, the massive pull of physical attraction, plus the unlikelihood of not being caught.......most women would cheat.

[Sqad]

"being caught"........LOL

[Rockrose]

No Sqad

[Barmaid]

Mamy is right. No games. DESPITE how very hurt you are feeling.

Games, revenge, calculated retribution is not appropriate. OK so it might make you feel better short term, but long term it wont.

Measured thought, counselling and honesty is what will rebuild. IF there is anything to rebuild.

[GlitteryWings]

I know.... no games.

Torn with what you THINK you should do and act like, reality is at the moment dont have the energy to do it all!!

Personally Sqad I wouldnt cheat I couldnt live with the guilt - but I do understand your point and have friends who have x

[nailit]

//Personally Sqad I wouldnt cheat I couldnt live with the guilt//
But you don't live with it. You EXCUSE it.
(men as well as women)

[Mamyalynne]

Well, you might know most women , but you sure don't know them all.

[Rockrose]

Thank you mamya I couldn’t bring myself to answer those posts politely

[Mamyalynne]

No problem, I chew my cheek when typing.

[Barmaid]

Nailit, this is not a post about women having affairs. The OP has asked for advice. If you want to go on about people having affairs start another thread.

PS, I read 50 Shades. It was crap. That does not mean I am fantasising. My man knows exactly what my needs are and I know what his are.

[nailit]

//Nailit, this is not a post about women having affairs. The OP has asked for advice. If you want to go on about people having affairs start another thread//

Yes, I would have done if I'd wanted to, but I didn't! Was just agreeing with another poster if that's ok?

[GlitteryWings]

I appear to have missed something (thankfully)

To be clear I personally could not excuse my own guilt. I would be unable to sleep/function.

PERSONALLY.

[Mamyalynne]

Wishing you luck with the decisions you make and hope the future bodes well for you.

Sympathy too on your bereavement.

[GlitteryWings]

Thank you!

[LadyCG]

To save me reading the entire thread, does he know you know about his infidelity?

[GlitteryWings]

Yes Lady he does.

Very much so x