If you saw a friends husband with another woman.....

[crystalbee27]

and it looked more romantic date than business lunch would you tell her?

[boxtops]

No. None of my business.

[nailit]

No. It would be none of my business.

[jomifl]

Absoluetly not!

[emmie]

No, but i would speak with him, and it doesn't have to be anything other than a friendly encounter. After all it could all be perfectly innocent, and you go steaming in and tell her, and all the while it's his cousin, niece, colleague, and you are the one with egg on your face, and a friend who probably won't thank you, or indeed speak with you again.

[Purple_Popple]

Not really, I would gather some evidence first and just ask some subtle questions such as "was your other half working etc the other day" (the day you saw him with said woman and take it from there.

[woofgang]

i would do what em10 says. I would make sure he had seen me, catch his eye, go over and say hi and see what happened....Actually i think if It was a very good friend I would mention it...not on an "OMG he's cheating on you" way but in a "saw X the other day..blah blah blah" way

[Brinjal]

I would say to him hey. Tom I waved to you in town or where ever the other day but you didn't see me and what his response is.

[Prudie]

No I wouldnt but then again how many wronged men/woman have gone mad at their friends for not telling them if they knew already. Difficult question.

[NOX]

I would mind my own business entirely.

[maggiebee]

I would mind my own business and not jump to conclusions.

[emmie]

woofgang, the trouble is there is no innocent way to approach this even with a very good friend, as they will quiz you till you either blurt out what you saw, or think you saw, or indeed all the gory details, by which time you are in it up to your neck, and she won't thank you, and tick off another friendship go west

[EDDIE51]

I know of a case where someone reported to the wife that her husband was in the company of another woman for lunch, it turned out to be his sister! just caused a load of troublr for nothing. Don't mention it.

[emmie]

Eddie, exactly - mind you when she finds out you did see him with another woman and it's not an innocent encounter, then you will still get it in the neck because you knew and said nothing, either way you won't win.

[crystalbee27]

Mmm - well he picks up the kids on alternate days at the school gates - maybe I should say oh I saw you in (restaurant) the other day -what do you think of it? -and see his reaction? If he says oh yes I took my cousin/sister/whatever in there that will be great otherwise I think I will have to keep quiet but she's going through a bad patch at the moment with him and 'another woman' would explain a lot of bizarre behaviour.

[China Doll]

If I saw a mates husband out and about then I'm more likely to just say 'hi' and go about my business.

[shoota]

Havn't got any friends......

[Kiki-frog]

No, I wouldn't because it would (a) be none of my business, and (b) it's impossible to judge what the relationship is just watching from a distance. However, as others have said, I would make darn sure he knew that I'd seen him, and probably would go over there and then and introduce myself as a friend of his wife's.

[NOX]

If a relationship is going to fail, it will fail, if it's strong enough to succeed then it will succeed, I really don't think there is any benefit in commenting to your friend as you might just force a situation.

[woofgang]

yes there is, em10, I would be quite surprised if a friend of mine had seen my husband and not said hi or felt that they couldn't mention it to me and that is how I would address it with a friend. OTOH If I was married to a man who cheated and a friend of mine knew and didn't tell me well that would bust up the friendship.

[shoota]

But if I had - NO NEVER