In relationship with married man!!!!!!!!

[lerler]

Hi all,need some advice.I've been with him for three years now.He's still with wife,she kind of like has a clue,but he just keeps fobbing her off.He tells me he needs to say because of his debts etc,we have a great time and love each other alot.We've tried the not seeing each other for a couple of mths,but where like a boomerang...we just keep getting together.What should one do...?

[pastafreak]

Tasty-you don't have to be quite so cruel.

[Velvetee]

Unfortunately, as women, we do tend to fall for such tripe at times. She thinks this man loves her and no doubt, he is probably fond of her and enjoys the sex he's getting. If he did leave his wife for her, would she not have in the back of her mind, that he'd do the same to her sooner or later?

[Velvetee]

Yes you're right Tasty. However, in my case, he dumped his wife and me and went off with a busty blonde. Serves me right for being stupid and taking what wasn't mine to take.

[lerler]

Tasty morsel or what ever kind of crap name that is!But if you can't give good,decent,non-abusive advice,then i suggest that you go and bother someone else...!What an evil Witch.Go get a life.........

[Ice.Maiden]

You can see what people are saying lerler, and these same answers are either from experience or just plain old common sense. This man doesn't love you hun, but he'll tell you that. He loves his wife, family and lifestyle, because that's where he's choosing to be, over you. Unfortunately, you ARE just a bit on the side, and if you don't make the break now, you're going to end up older, sadder and resentful. You could never trust this man if you eventually got him - but how could anyone knowing your past now trust YOU? It's never a wise idea to play with married men. He's married for a reason - he might think he's having more fun with you, but the fact is, it's his wife he really loves.

[lerler]

Ice maiden,you are right...but you know what it's like,i just hate to admit it!!!!

[Velvetee]

Lerler, I agree Tastymorsel was rather abusive, but as the woman scorned, i.e her hubby had an affair, it's understandable she would feel venomous to other women who would happily break up a marriage for her own ends.

As you've read here Lerler, most people, who are on the outside, looking in know this man is playing you for a fool. If he genuinely loves you and wants to be with you, then he will stop making lame excuses, leave his wife and be with you.

You probably need to give him an ultimatum, a timescale as to when you expect him to leave his wife. I guarantee you, he will soon go cold on you and the phone calls will become less and less. I personally think you are wasting your time and should look for a man who is available. He is not.

[PatriciaH]

If he cheats on his wife with you he could cheat on you with someone else ..............

[Ice.Maiden]

Hun - I'm sorry if my reply sounded harsh, but I think you DO know it, otherwise you wouldnt've posted. It's going to be difficult to give up such an addiction, but if you have some good friends to go out with, I'd suggest that's your best bet. Just go cold turkey, and see if the guy leaves his wife THEN. Some do, but not many. You deserve a lot better than you're getting at the moment.

[lerler]

tastymorsel,YES I DO KNOW WHAT it's LIKE and i'm not a home wreaker.But didn't you take your husband back?It also seems like your still in pain and very aggresive...?

[lerler]

Tastymorsel,like i said:didn't you take your cheating husband back?Surely you know;he'll do it again?

[PatriciaH]

Now now ladies ,this will end up as a slanging match... just let it lie x

[Ice.Maiden]

Men can be weak. The pressure of work, home....they turn so easily at the sight of a pretty and willing woman, but this man's wife knows him hun. He'll go crawling back to her - as he probably has done before you - and leave you feeling used - which is what you ARE being. If you have any respect for other women, you'll back out as soon as possible, and leave the lech to someone who knows what she's dealing with.

[lerler]

tastymorsel,i'm certainly no female dog.But all i'm getting from you is insults.No need.