In relationship with married man!!!!!!!!

[lerler]

Hi all,need some advice.I've been with him for three years now.He's still with wife,she kind of like has a clue,but he just keeps fobbing her off.He tells me he needs to say because of his debts etc,we have a great time and love each other alot.We've tried the not seeing each other for a couple of mths,but where like a boomerang...we just keep getting together.What should one do...?

[Ice.Maiden]

Exactly - both these ladies are fine by me, even if they DO call me PB for all the world to see!! (Hides face).

[JK04]

She shouldnt be in this situation in the first place, fair enough if both are already married then it's their own problem but she hasnt said that she is, so she or anyone else should know better, And drisgirl i dont want to fall out with you or anything over this but what can u say off this website that will be the right thing? she should forget about him and get on with her life with someone who is free and single and wants to be with her. Not someone who has a family. Like would any one of you try and help someone who was stealing your husband?
Anyway I apoligise for say i hope she dies, that was too harsh but i do despise people like her.

[Drisgirl]

Still to hear it tho -altho when I came in and he said that I just melted it was so funny and what made it funnier is that he didnt get it PMSL: !!! You wouldt get me on Fri and Sat cos we are off to the racing -cannane wait -aww excited already-Musselburgh -where we got married and first time back in 10 yrs -yee haa !!

Hope ya get on fine -keep yer pecker up I'll be thinking of ya -I will EMail tomorrow xxxx

[Ice.Maiden]

Bless you! mwah! xxxxx

[pastafreak]

Group hug!!! ((((((((( )))))))))

[Drisgirl]

JK04 -relax -things are said in the heat of the moment !
Somtimes when i have spoken with ABers -who are now my bloody pals cos they are through it -not just cos of me -it helps to talk one on one cos emotions get heightened and cos I am immune to a degree I can try to give good impartial solid advice -it may not be what someone wants to hear but after a chat they know they have someone to fall back on -you know what i mean?

Lifes tough -ive been through the school of hard knocks -I havnt survived personally but accept I never will so I am in the position to aId you and help ya -loike I said I aint a siant just someone who isnt judgemetal xx

[Drisgirl]

O missed that -(((((Icey and Pasta))))))) mwah xxxx

[Ice.Maiden]

Sniffle....PASTA....she MISSED us!!!!!! How.....?????

[Drisgirl]

`Oor Wullie must have got her on MSN -with the web cam the lot lol !!!

[Ice.Maiden]

Gordon Bennett!!!!! She does this, dris - just ups and leaves, and then says she's only been gone "5 minutes".........!!

[pastafreak]

Geeezzz...talking behind my back....that how ya treat ya elders-lol!!

[pastafreak]

And they didn't know I was listening..lol

[Ice.Maiden]

Gulp!! Zzzzzzziiiippp!

love you really!

[Octavius]

I can�t help feeling this was an orchestrated delusion for the sole purpose of acrimonious ping-pong.

Amazing, it works every time.

[gipsey]

I Feel sad for his wife, and i know what it feels like i put up with it for 11 years .,go and find a free man its not love his got the best of both worlds your just the bit on the side how sad is that.

[cazzz1975]

wow this thread certainly blew up?!

Im not sure if lerler has actually read any of the serious advice though, her responses suggest she is still not thinking seriously about her relationship.

lerler, it matters not if you dont take the advice, people are trying to forewarn you. you will find out yourself no doubt in time.

[puddicat]

Tasty morsel THEY DO LEAVE THERE WIFES, cos i am one of them, my ex was having a affair with our barmaid, our marriage on reflection was going thru a bad patch, he was a type that wouldnt talk about it, thought he would stay with me but said he couldnt give her up,so i left with my 2 children back to scotland, you never no someone, as well as you think you do, he is now married to her and another son!!"!

[lerler]

Hi all i'm back on line!I have read all of the opinions of everyone,but alot of people did give great feed back!
But to be honest i hve broken it off,numerous times.
But i know he'll never leave...just like someone said'they never do!' and i acccept this.Like i said maybe i just need to find someone else.Which i will do;one day soon.I'm not holding my breath.But one is keeping her options open.
Some of your opinions were so aggressive...WHY???
Other's have been really nice and helpful x

[cazzz1975]

I suppose when you get to that point in your life when you want more, whether it be commitment, children or just to not feel like someones part time sex, you may then decide to make the break.

You are unlikely to find someone else whilst your still at this guys beck and call, Are you the only other woman aside from his wife that you know of? a lot of these guys have numerous bits on the side.

People are upset because they feel strongly, a lot of people have been on the bad end of it and have had to find out that their partners been playing around.

Until it happens to you it will be hard for you to comprehend how devastating something like this really is.