I Really Need Some Advice On This!

[Retrochic]

'm in a predicament and really don't know how to address it. We were at my nephews engagement party and they had a lovely cake which I commented on and they told me the same person was going to do the wedding cake. In a rash moment I offered to buy the wedding cake as a wedding present and they were delighted. Anyway I've just been informed by my nephew that his fiance has decided to go with a different cake designer and they have chosen the cake and its going to cost - wait for it- £450! I'd budgeted at around £250 for the cake and although I could pay it, I feel its grossly extravagant for a cake -its just two layers of sponge! I feel I've been taken advantage of. What do I do? Gulp and pay the £450 or say something and offer to pay towards the cake -but what can I say that will not sound mean?

[woofgang]

but...well Retro "assumed" a two layer cake?

I read it that the two layer cake was what the couple had told her the new baker was going to do...I mean would she have felt better if it was a three layer cake?

[Bazile]

If you refuse - you'll soon find out what they think , when you see which seat you have been allocated at the reception :-)

[weecalf]

What if the said couple are reading this ?

[boxtops]

They'll know, then, weecalf...

[Bazile]

//What if the said couple are reading this ? //

nah - there is no one , the left side of 50 on this site - is there ?

[weecalf]

im 43 and have been for sometime

[Peter Pedant]

I feel 16 but no one feeling me - sorry wrong thread

agree sqad - ring quickest and say your cont is 250 knicker

or else you have to pay the whole whack

[FrogNog]

Not even 40 yet Bazile, which probably explains why I disagree with so many so often :)

[Elina]

Hi Retro, regardless of if you can afford it or not, surely it's only etiquette, that the couple should have approached you first to be sure the final cost of the cake didn't make it awkward for you to pay for. I'd contact them to say you hadn't envisaged the cake to cost so much & would x amount be o.k towards it x

[Retrochic]

Thanks to everyone for your varied replies which have all been taken on board and I appreciate all sides of the argument .I've given kvalidir best answer as she basically has covered all bases and accurately described my nephews fiance who has turned from a sweet girl into a bridezilla of gargantuan proportions. I'm going to think about it a little more and I'll let everyone know the outcome. Thanks

[Peter Pedant]

Sqad you arent watching enough day time tel

Bridezillas - lots of afternoon progz on this.
Enjoy

[Prudie]

Not my thread but Elina for best answer "surely it's only etiquette, that the couple should have approached you first". Exactamundo

[xcaityx]

Sorry I have been reading thinking of ways to help, just came onto this website today and I am 23...Don't worry I am not the Bridezilla x

[Retrochic]

Thank you for all the posts. I was sent an email by the couple, with a picture of the cake and a lovely message saying how it meant so much and that it would really make their day even more special. So I've paid for it, its just money after all and I offered to buy the cake, not contribute to it. I'l just make sure i get a double portion at the wedding x

[B00]

Not that it helps any but even I (yes, I like the odd slice or cake or six) think that £250 for a cake is OTT never mind £450.

Were they paying for that themselves originally? Or fully expecting someone else to stump up for it?

[Sqad]

Retro.......yes....after puffing and huffing and advising others not to pay..............I would have done the same..LOL

[mazie]

£450 for a cake... When we have a world that is starving, makes me a little ashamed I'm afraid. I hope you sort it retro :o(

[Svejk]

Bit of a daft thing to say in the first place, retro, if you don't mind me saying. (or if you do, lol)
Mind you, I'm not a weddingy kind of person. If you gave me a thousand pound I wouldn't go to one.

[Slapshot]

£450 for a wedding cake is relativley well priced, a friends daughter who I'm giving away next year was quoted £600 locally for a three tiered thing, no limits to how stupidly priced these things are

[mazie]

I still find it obscene to pay that much for a cake.... The world must have gone crazy !