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am i having a baby to soon?
After swearing that only one baby, I am having another. Me and my husband both werent all too happy about it at first, but now we are excited. However I am just worried about the emotional toll it will take on my then 16 month old baby. Does anyone know about her possible behavior changes and how I can help her through this?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Having two babies close together is hard at first, but much better when they grow, because they have each other for company.
Your sixteen-month-old will be young enough to assimilate the new arrival without too much trouble. Babies at that age have not yet developed a strong sense of 'self' and adapt quite easily to new saituations.
You will of course make sure they have equal attention and love, and you should have no problems in that area.
Congratulations, and best wishes for your extended family!
i'm in the exact same situation. After an awful pregnancy and birth, my partner and i swore never again. And just when things are settled and sterilising, mixing formula and all the repetative neccesities that go with having a baby are drawing to a close (my son is 8 months old) we find much to our dismay (precautions were took) that we are pregnant. We were totally freaked at first- and i am still quite petrified, but a baby is a wonderful gift (and touch wood) everything should be ok.
I too am worried about the affect it will have on my son also on us as a family unit. Will i still be able to give as much love and attention as i do now to my son? How will he and I cope when a new born baby will have to be the focus of my attention? Question after question arise in my head, probably for you too, but all one can do is deal with it as it comes i guess.
Good luck with the pregnancy and birth x
My children are 16 months apart - a boy and a girl. My son (the older) did not care one bit about the addition to the family when she came home. He never paid her any attention until she started to crawl and grab his toys. He was none too happy about the addition to the family then, but she'd been around for months by then!
It will work out just fine for you.
There are good and bad things about children that close in age. My son is four now and daughter will be three in a couple of months. Looking back, I would say that we really did not suffer too much. At the very beginning, it was tough, but it was easier each month.
They get along just fine, share toys fairly well, and are good playmates.
I think you'll be just fine.
An advantage is that you get out of nasty nappies very quickly!
Good luck.