Is She A Good Friend?

[abbeylee90]

One of my closest  friends of 12 years  ever since she moved in with her partner she hasn't bothered with me unless it is through other friends one of of my other closest friends she use to slag her off now they like best mates but she makes no effort with me like she use to even said she can't make plans in advance because of money but can with my friend.

[abbeylee90]

That's ok then 'some people said you don't want to look for another as it look bad on cv'

[Captain2]

There are now two threads running tonight and they are both going round and round in circles!! And nothing will be taken on board, unfortunately.

[abbeylee90]

Yes you're right anything about my job I've put it in my other thread.

[Captain2]

^^^ apart from your answer at 20.44????? Concentrate AL, concentrate.

[abbeylee90]

Coz I only just realised I was on the wrong post.

[newmodarmy]

"Is She A Good Friend?"

No, not any more. This happens a lot over the course of our lives as our circumstances and interests change. 

Just be friendly when you meet/message. Don't push things. Things may change back nearer to how they were eventually, but probably won't. 

[mumstheword1]

Naomi24, most of the time I do just scroll. But Abbeylee posts constantly about the same things over and over again it is monotonous. I am a very caring and compassionate woman but people need to help themselves or listen to the excellent advice other posters have given her. But she doesn't take anything on board.

[pastafreak]

mumstheword...it's been stated and discussed in previous threads that Abbey has certain issues that may affect how she uses information. Some responders on here allow for that.

[douglas9401]

Some responders doubt that she 'uses information' at all though.

[abbeylee90]

New at times she been known to go off people and think she is better.

[abbeylee90]

Or only if she falls out with her partner 

[Hazlinny]

It's  life Abbey.  People change and friendships fall by the wayside.  I wouldn't let this subject trouble you too much.  I have a lot of acquaintances but just a few I consider "good" friends. x

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, if you're going to list all her bad points, one by one, why would want her to be a 'good friend'?  As many people have said, you need to move on, stop going over the same old ground.

[DDIL]

Good evening Abbeylee90,

do you consider yourself a good friend?

[abbeylee90]

I will be if they are 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, why are you so keen to have this person, with masses of faults (apparently) in your life? This isn't the first time you've had questions (well, moans) about her!

[abbeylee90]

Just saying if it all goes pair shaped with her relationship I not interested if she's dumped me.

[scorpiojo]

Tell her that

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, that's exactly the kind of stuff you came out with the last few times you mentioned this 'issue' - it seems to be an issue for only you, other people are just getting on with their lives. 

[DDIL]

Good evening again,

do you think that a good friend should owe money to another friend and delay payment?

Reading back on your many questions, you have not been a particularly good friend to some of your girlfriends either.

Is it possible that this friend is getting your ire because she has something you do not?