Is She A Good Friend?

[abbeylee90]

One of my closest  friends of 12 years  ever since she moved in with her partner she hasn't bothered with me unless it is through other friends one of of my other closest friends she use to slag her off now they like best mates but she makes no effort with me like she use to even said she can't make plans in advance because of money but can with my friend.

[abbeylee90]

She never asked me to go out with her and her other friends

[abbeylee90]

Neva no I haven't got a problem with that I've been out with her other friends before.

[newmodarmy]

Show your posts here to your mum  abbey and I can guess what she'd say.

[abbeylee90]

What this one?

[newmodarmy]

Yes. See whether she thinks you are being badly treated and have a real grievance....or whether you are being ridiculous, selfish, jealous and possessive. Either way she'll have some advice for you.

 

[abbeylee90]

Why would I be being selfish or aggressive?

[newmodarmy]

I didn't mention being aggressive, abbey.

[abbeylee90]

Possessive I mean?

[newmodarmy]

Ask her and see what she thinks and advises.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you've posted quite a few questions about how 'bad' your friend/former friend can be. It obviously really bothers you, and I think you're now looking for problems all the time - rather than accepting that friendships change, that sometimes people can become less important to each other, don't want the same things or the same kind of friendship. 

[abbeylee90]

It's since she moved in with her partner so maybe she just forgets people.

[abbeylee90]

https://postimg.cc/GHJqzdhp

They say you forget your friends when moving with ypur partner.

[abbeylee90]

Do I invite her out with my friend next Friday?

[abbeylee90]

Do I try and meet up with her or leave it?

[naomi24]

This is about a missed call from her that you mentioned on your other thread.  As I said if she wants you she'll get back to you.  Don't call her - wait and see what she says if she calls back.

[abbeylee90]

She hasn't called but do I try and arrange to meet up with her or leave her?

[scorpiojo]

You've had a lot of replies about this, and you're still asking..

[abbeylee90]

Don't worry now, anyway other one wants to go on holiday next year.

[abbeylee90]

The one I'm on about that don't bother with me has pulled out of beajolious day due to working and going away.

[abbeylee90]

I got a missed call from her again which only rung for a 2nd 😐