Is She A Good Friend?

[abbeylee90]

One of my closest  friends of 12 years  ever since she moved in with her partner she hasn't bothered with me unless it is through other friends one of of my other closest friends she use to slag her off now they like best mates but she makes no effort with me like she use to even said she can't make plans in advance because of money but can with my friend.

[abbeylee90]

She never asked me to go out with her and her other friends

[abbeylee90]

Neva no I haven't got a problem with that I've been out with her other friends before.

[newmodarmy]

Show your posts here to your mum  abbey and I can guess what she'd say.

[abbeylee90]

What this one?

[newmodarmy]

Yes. See whether she thinks you are being badly treated and have a real grievance....or whether you are being ridiculous, selfish, jealous and possessive. Either way she'll have some advice for you.

 

[abbeylee90]

Why would I be being selfish or aggressive?

[newmodarmy]

I didn't mention being aggressive, abbey.

[abbeylee90]

Possessive I mean?

[newmodarmy]

Ask her and see what she thinks and advises.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you've posted quite a few questions about how 'bad' your friend/former friend can be. It obviously really bothers you, and I think you're now looking for problems all the time - rather than accepting that friendships change, that sometimes people can become less important to each other, don't want the same things or the same kind of friendship. 

[abbeylee90]

It's since she moved in with her partner so maybe she just forgets people.