Thanks, untitled. You seem to be suggesting that there can be extremists- I agree. And also, that you exaggerated what people tell you to the nth degree.
Now, I will try to explain this and perhaps not well! Only women have a sense of who they "are". We have grown up from little girls, being told that we should watch how we act, dress, behave, around men... dont get cornered, know where the exits are, keys between fingers.... etc etc. We have also all seen stats, I'm sure too.
This is something that no male has the same direct experience of. And expecting women to trust any strange man, in a vulnerable situation, is just not reasonable. That isn't to say that transwomen are more dangerous than other men- the risks are exactly the same.
I have 2 questions....
1) why can men not just present how they like amongst other men (and violence is obviously not the response- or you would understand why mote vulnerable females don't appreciate it)
2) and in over 25 years of research, nobody has directly answered this. We have, at best got, occasionally a list of social stereotypes...
Everyone feels how they feel.... they are how they are.... the most important question, is "why" is it interpreted, just now, as being "the wrong sex"?