Do I Message Him Or Let Him Message Me?

[abbeylee90]

I'm meant to be going with guy I went on a date with on Saturday tonight do I message him if I don't hear from him or let him message me?

[abbeylee90]

He was with his family for a birthday meal 

[Clementino]

OK Naomi and Abbey. 😔

[1ozzy]

Shock horror,  he actually spent time with his family instead of wasting it with you dear Abbey?

My flabber is ghasted

How could anyone be that mean to such a delightful thoughtful girl as yourself?

[Dizmo]

It's impossible to know what is going on, without proper context. Not that I think we should know, or want to know.

Sending a picture of a meal could mean more than one thing. As Clementino has mentioned, it could be him showing that he's out with friends instead of spending time with Abbey. It could be that he's subtly trying to say, "look at how nice this food looks, would you like to eat here with me?" or "Do you like this sort of food?". I know that sounds odd, however I can actually imagine myself doing something like that, even if it were to try and start a conversation (yeah, I'm a little odd, I know).

Did he just send a picture and not actually text anything else (at least initially)? It's difficult to know.

If someone messaged me and said, "what are you doing?", replying with 'I'm having a meal at ****', "oh what are you having?", *sends photo*. Without any context, who knows what he's thinking.

Abbey: Don't over think it - that's my advice.

[Dizmo]

^^ Posted that before seeing the previous posts.

[naomi24]

1ozzy, abbey isn't complaining.

[1ozzy]

And I'd hazard a guess, unless I play along or ignore these bovine excrement threads you'll wield your new found powers Naomi

[Clementino]

I was being a little over-protective for Abbey. I am pleased it has turned out well.

 

[1ozzy]

Wouldn't be the first time😉

[naomi24]

No so new, 1ozzy, but that aside whether you ignore threads or not, I'll only wield those if you break the rules.  

[Auntypoll]

I did ask you a direct question Naomi on how you know this poster is genuine that you chose not to answer. Why not just admit that you nor anyone else including the editor can 100% prove posters are genuine.  It's no big deal and no one is forced to read this drivel or need to comment on it, indeed who cares if it's real or not? But please don't say 'genuine' if you haven't got the proof.

[naomi24]

Auntypoll, I can't see a question from you addressed to me specifically and I've certainly not chosen to ignore any question to me.

 

You say you don't care and yet you persist.  I can only repeat that we have the Spare Ed's assurances that abbey is genuine.  However, providing proof would require sharing personal information - something that would not only be quite wrong  but actually none of your business.  

[Prudie]

If I may add my twopennyworth - I think this depends on what is meant by the word genuine. In a previous name abbey accidentally posted a link to her FB page in which there were photos of a blonde woman who lived in S Wales and had MacDonalds as part of their profile open to all to view. She's also accidentally posted her home postcode on one of her takeaway food posts and posted pctures of herself in various outfits with the face scribbled out. Someone is writing these posts so on that basis Abbey is 100% a genuine human being.

Whether what she writes and tells us is the truth no-one can say unless they knew her in real life. The AB Eds have made unusual and regular interventions on her threads to tell us to join in nicely or back off. I won't get to find out but I am interested in whether the mods who support her fervently would feel the same if they weren't expected to toe the line.

What I do find uncomfortable is if Abbey has learning difficulties (which she has never admitted to ever) as we keep hearing - and dyspraxia, depression and potential seizures -  then why is she getting encouragement about responses to different men on dating sites? Do you think the men who go on these sites are looking for meaningful relationships with someone with all the problems Abbey purports to have? If you really care for her then be honest.

[Clementino]

The opening question on this thread was answered in half a dozen posts.

It is the consequent questions and comments by members that has rocketed the number of posts, so maybe it is time to close the thread and wait for Abbey to submit a new thread when she has a new question. 

 

[naomi24]

Prudie, mods aren't 'expected to toe the line'.  I've been critical of abbey in the past but I have since concluded that she is naive and actually, quite vulnerable.  If I think she's being harrassed or bullied I will defend her - but that is my choice and I would do the same for anyone in a similar situation.  It isn't something I've been specifically asked to do.

 

As for her choice of lifestyle, none of us here can change that.  We can only advise her to the best of our ability.  Personally, I'd rather she didn't go on dating sites at all and I would love her to stick to a full time job properly, but ultimately all of that is her decision.

 

Clementino, there's no valid reason to close the thread.

[Clementino]

See you at 300 Naomi 😘

[naomi24]

There's no restriction on the number of posts in threads, clementino.  

[Clementino]

my emoji shows my post was tongue in cheek 😉

[naomi24]

Oh ok.  They all look the same on my desktop - one indistinguishable from the next.

[Arksided]

🤪 I'm smiling.