What Do I Do About This Guy?

[abbeyleigh]

I've met this guy on a dating app who lives in England and I live in wales he wants to meet half way to go on a date. I definitely he wants it more than I do and I don't know if I want long distance

[abbeyleigh]

Sometimes and I'm stupid for not making the effort

[Neveracrossword]

Abbeyleigh, you've already said the dating sites have been pretty useless for you, so I'm surprised that you're carrying on with them.

[pastafreak]

What do you mean by not making the effort? Is it possible the guys you meet aren't *worth* the effort...or are you nervous about having an actual relationship?
As for this date...trust your instincts. I suspect you're feeling wary about it. If you are as unsure as you sound...dont go.

[abbeyleigh]

No I want a relationship I just should of been more confident

[Atheist]

abbey...
You should meet me. Not in the flesh, just in virtual world.
Would you feel comfortable doing that? I don't think you would. Why would you want to meet me and not him?
Best to meet real people in the flesh, not potential weirdoes online. Be careful, and I wish you good luck in your search for Mr Right.

[smurfchops]

What is the point of a long distance relationship? Try to find someone near to home in Wales, meet in a pub where there are lots of people, don’t go off anywhere with him on your own. Maybe you could ask some friends to got to the same pub while you are there, as a back up.

[abbeyleigh]

He messaged me on Instagram asking if I blocked on WhatsApp

[Neveracrossword]

Couldn't you have just let him know you weren't interested, rather than blocking him? Yesterday you were considering going to meet him...

[abbeyleigh]

I didn't say I was I didn't know weather to was worried what if I don't like him

[Neveracrossword]

AbbeyLeigh, you should have gone with your insitincts rather than wait for most people on AB to point out that it wasn't a good idea to go off to meet him. You said you didn't want long distance, and that he seemed to want to meet more than you did... but you never mentioned whether you liked him, or how much/little you liked him.

[Prudie]

I was also going to say, why block him, he might be a guy with feelings (or he might be a weirdo). It's not very nice. Why not just say sorry but the distance is too far and you're not interested..
How do these dating apps work anyway? Does everybody automatically get your whatsapp and instagram accounts?

[abbeyleigh]

Sometimes if you've never you might not like when you do meet I said that and he seemed adamant that we will want to meet again

[abbeyleigh]

No thought I'd talk to him see if I do and still unsure if meeting is a good idea

[Hazlinny]

Oh what a tangled web we weave ... that saying springs to mind.
Abbey, you have to decide one way or another exactly what YOU want to do. Just think of it, you will be travelling quite a distance to meet someone you don't know .... hey, why not wait till your birthday "night-out" ... sure there must be some eligible guys in Wales?

[davebro]

take a friend with you ?

[elliemay1]

He sounds a bit pushy. Just explain politely that the distance is too far for you to travel. If he's so keen he might come to your home town where you would feel more comfortable

[abbeyleigh]

I thought normally if you think someone on a dating site blocked you it's easy enough to move on but thought it was strange messaged me on Instagram I'd understand if he already met me. He also said he changed his driving lesson so he could meet me.

[barry1010]

Many years ago before I met my wife I developed a friendship with a young woman I had to speak to over the phone most days at work. We really hit it off and developed quite a bond during these calls. We exchanged home phone numbers and chatted for hours in our free time.
This was long before the Internet so had no idea the other looked like. We sent photos through the post and liked what we saw.
We eventually decided to meet up and really when we did, we both started laughing. No attraction between us at all, not enough connection to want to meet again. In fact I intensely disliked her on sight, I think she felt the same.
I was disappointed, but it could have been very awkward.

You can only know if there is any chemistry by meeting in person and I don't think Internet dating helps. My wife looks nothing like what was my 'ideal woman' and I would have swiped left if I saw her profile on an app.
It was love at first sight for us, a chance meeting in a lonely place.

[Hazlinny]

^^Was that down at the end of Lonely Street at Heartbreak Hotel Barry?

Like your story - so true.

[Hazlinny]

15.56Abbey/ At least you would have one thing in common - both taking driving lessons!