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Islam And Marriage
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What does Islam have to say about Muslim men marrying non-muslim men who are not "people of the book" ( ie christian or jewish?)
What does Islam have to say about Muslim women marrying non-muslim men? and what reason does it give for this guidance?
What religion should the children of a marriage between a muslim man and a non-muslim female be brought up in? Or should they be allowed to choose for themselves?
There you go, Lightbulb - separate thread. What does your religion tell you about these issues?
What does Islam have to say about Muslim women marrying non-muslim men? and what reason does it give for this guidance?
What religion should the children of a marriage between a muslim man and a non-muslim female be brought up in? Or should they be allowed to choose for themselves?
There you go, Lightbulb - separate thread. What does your religion tell you about these issues?
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well, in islam men cannot marry men so thats that
a muslim women cannot marry a non muslim man, however recently that is becoming more common
the children should be brought up as muslims, yet when they come of age they can pick for themselves whatever religion they want. again, that is up for debate as many get brought up by the womens faith.
there you go lazygun, now here comes the criticisms.
a muslim women cannot marry a non muslim man, however recently that is becoming more common
the children should be brought up as muslims, yet when they come of age they can pick for themselves whatever religion they want. again, that is up for debate as many get brought up by the womens faith.
there you go lazygun, now here comes the criticisms.
@Lightbulb - Of Course, here come the criticisms.
Try this criticism first.
Islam is sexist.
If Muslim men are allowed to marry outside of the muslim religion - why does islamic teaching forbid muslim women to do the same? And what reason is given for this restriction?
Islam restricts free thought.
Why should the children of any faith automatically be brought up in that faith? Surely it would be better to allow the child to make an informed choice once they are old enough to appreciate the teachings, the pros and cons?
Islam is homophobic.
Marriage between men is forbidden. Why? What teachings within the Islamic faith forbid it?
This is my point from the other thread, Lightbulb. Belief in a fundamental tenet of your religion means you have the same label attached to you, if you believe and practice that tenet.
Try this criticism first.
Islam is sexist.
If Muslim men are allowed to marry outside of the muslim religion - why does islamic teaching forbid muslim women to do the same? And what reason is given for this restriction?
Islam restricts free thought.
Why should the children of any faith automatically be brought up in that faith? Surely it would be better to allow the child to make an informed choice once they are old enough to appreciate the teachings, the pros and cons?
Islam is homophobic.
Marriage between men is forbidden. Why? What teachings within the Islamic faith forbid it?
This is my point from the other thread, Lightbulb. Belief in a fundamental tenet of your religion means you have the same label attached to you, if you believe and practice that tenet.
//So that wouldn't be regarded has bringing dishonor on the family then //
the father would not like it, as said, but they can make their own choice, no matter what anyone else thinks. If you mean dishonor as in being shamed than no, if he/she chooses to follow another religion fine, what the family does than is to do with the family, not islam.
the father would not like it, as said, but they can make their own choice, no matter what anyone else thinks. If you mean dishonor as in being shamed than no, if he/she chooses to follow another religion fine, what the family does than is to do with the family, not islam.
@Sandy - The question is aimed specifically at Islam for a reason - it was brought up in a conversation in a separate thread.
But I agree with you. Its not just Islam whose teachings can be repressive, sexist or homophobic. These are charges that can equally be levelled at the other Abrahamic religions too.
But I agree with you. Its not just Islam whose teachings can be repressive, sexist or homophobic. These are charges that can equally be levelled at the other Abrahamic religions too.
The discussion on the other thread involved sexism. Lightbulb insists that Islam is not sexist, so I think the most fundamental question here is why can Muslim men marry people of other faiths, but Muslim women can’t? Is that not sexist – and does it not clearly demonstrate that inequality between the sexes exists within Islam? Lightbulb?
firtly lazygun, as i have said in other threads, men and women have different roles. Mothers are more respected than fathers, infact, the quran states paradise lies under your mothers feet, meaning respect your mother and you will reach paradise. This clearly shows that women are seen as more important by the children and that the children respect mothers more than fathers.
the reason men can marry other religions is because muslim cannot marry people who associate idols with god, like hindus. If a women marries a hindu she may be pressureised into becoming hindu, which is totally the opposite of islamic belief. Of course, if she wanted to become a hindu, than fine. Also, as simmilar in british law, the women normally takes on the mans surname and often lives with the mans family. If she is living with a non muslim and she is a muslim that may be awkward and uncomfortable.
A child can convert when they reach of age. The reason they are brought up as muslims is simply becaue being brought up in two faiths would be confusing for anyone, so it is simple to follow one faith and as you take the mans surname, you take the mans religion as well.
//Surely it would be better to allow the child to make an informed choice once they are old enough to appreciate the teachings, the pros and cons?//
when they are of age, they can choose their religion.
The reason men cannot marry men is because it is impossile to genetically continue on your family line and also men marry women. That is how islam believes society works. Plus men and women are natural. This of course doesnt mean muslims should "hate" gays. No, i infact have a friend who is gay. Yes, i do not agree with it, but i respect him for who he is, a human.
the reason men can marry other religions is because muslim cannot marry people who associate idols with god, like hindus. If a women marries a hindu she may be pressureised into becoming hindu, which is totally the opposite of islamic belief. Of course, if she wanted to become a hindu, than fine. Also, as simmilar in british law, the women normally takes on the mans surname and often lives with the mans family. If she is living with a non muslim and she is a muslim that may be awkward and uncomfortable.
A child can convert when they reach of age. The reason they are brought up as muslims is simply becaue being brought up in two faiths would be confusing for anyone, so it is simple to follow one faith and as you take the mans surname, you take the mans religion as well.
//Surely it would be better to allow the child to make an informed choice once they are old enough to appreciate the teachings, the pros and cons?//
when they are of age, they can choose their religion.
The reason men cannot marry men is because it is impossile to genetically continue on your family line and also men marry women. That is how islam believes society works. Plus men and women are natural. This of course doesnt mean muslims should "hate" gays. No, i infact have a friend who is gay. Yes, i do not agree with it, but i respect him for who he is, a human.
a girl at work married a turkish muslem she met on holiday 6 years ago, she's only 29 now, she's had hell and not been able to live over there with him and he's never been granted permission to come here, now he's found out that under new rules she won't be able to bring him over cos she doesn't earn enough, she has tried divorcing him over there but it's a nightmare, she went over to see him 8 weeks ago and he raped her because apparently it's not against the law , she's irish and should have known better as the irish are smart cookies i thought.
I can remember when Protestants marrying Catholics was frowned on and vice-versa. My own father used to say --''Don't bring any left-footers home''.
Those of my friends who did marry Catholics had to take 'instructions' and convert to the Catholic religion. They also had to promise to bring their children up as Catholics.
I don't know whether this is still the case .
Those of my friends who did marry Catholics had to take 'instructions' and convert to the Catholic religion. They also had to promise to bring their children up as Catholics.
I don't know whether this is still the case .
