Quizzes & Puzzles0 min ago
Bereavement Help Please !
My Gay partner of nearly 50 years,died very suddenly last Thursday(16th November) from heart attack, while shopping with me in Sainsbury's.The Medics did their best,but to no avail.
I am completely lost.
We live in a remote part of the country,and he was the only driver.
There are so many things that I have to do,but we don't know anyone around here.
I have contacted the friends that I thought would help.
But none of them suggested visiting me,I just need some human contact,and help.
I am feeling very sucidal,I haven't eaten or drunk much since that horrible Thursday.
I called 999, was taken by ambulance on Friday to the Conquest Hospital.but they just left me on couch(for 4 hours),knowing full well that I was Diabetic(no food etc) also Bipolar,I discharged my self.
Luckily my partners brother had come down(and took me back home),but after two days(without any advice) he went back to his home in Yorkshire(we are in East Sussex)
ANY comfort or practical advice would help.
This is a real cry for help, I cannot go on like this.
I have realised that Bill will not come back, and as he organised evertything for 49 years,I don't think I can go on without him.
I am in a deep dark place,and can only think of one way out.
It seems that the car problem might be solved in a strange way.
The friend (and his partner) who will probably take me to Bill's funeral(in Ashford)can come and pick me up from here(Beckley) and and after the funeral,one of the two in the relationship can drive the Berlingo to my house (from Sainsbury's),and then take his partner back to their home.They live near Tenterden,which is about half way from here to Ashford.
Sorry if this sounds very complicated,it's not easy(and will not get any easier) when you don't drive in the country!
Well,night night you great,wonderful & caring folks.
More updates soon,you are keeping me sane.
I'm extremely sorry about your traumatic circumstances. My condolences to you. Your experiences of late would cripple many people. May I suggest that your partners brother step up and help you more as he is an intimate family member and is familiar with your circumstances and loves his brother, as you do. Also, due to these shocking developments would you consider using a 'crowd funding site? ' They have helped many people going through such a painful time. I sincerely hope that you can gather the strength to adjust to this new reality that has been thrust upon you.
Sorry for your loss and apologies if this has already been mentioned. Re car insurance, once you get the car back home and SORN it, then I would contact the insurance company to cancel the policy as depending how the policy was paid if it was just one annual payment then there may be a refund for the remaining time and also ascertain whether it was on automatic renewal. If it was on direct debit, then you will need to cancel that.
Your GP should be able to put you in touch with bereavement services which are available and may even have meetings at the surgery. They should be able to help in some way. A lot of good advice on here has already been mentioned so will not repeat.
Hope all goes well with the funeral and that eventually you will be able to move forward and remember the good times you shared together which I am sure will be many.
Well, this may be my last post on this question?
Bill's brother has really copped out,he is giving no support(all the way from Yorkshire),and won't help with any funeral expenses.He seems to be running away from it(like me)
The Coroner phoned,I don't want to hear the results of the Post Mortem,it would really destroy me now.She said she will tell me about moving forward,but there is no forward.I am back in a black hole pit,and just want to join Billy.
After all these proceedures are done and dusted,I shall still be in an isolated country house,with no known neighbours to care about me, a virtual prisoner.
So Billy here I come to be with you!
Please, NoseyNose, try one of these numbers I gave earlier - Cruse is open now until 8 o'clock tonight:
24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Call 116 123 for free.
Call for free on 0808 808 1677.