Dating Advice

[mizfiesta]

I met a guy recently on a dating website - he seems like a decent chap. We met for the first time last weekend - we just met up briefly on the Saturday evening for a soft drink to see if we liked each other.

He then asked me out for a meal on the Wednesday. The meal went well enough. He text me when I got home to say he had nice time and asked if he could see me again to which I replied I'd be happy to. He was having his daughter to stay from Saturday (yesterday) to Tuesday so I said I would leave it up to him on the when/where.

Anyway I've not heard anything back from him since Wednesday night. It's now Sunday. I thought he would've dropped me a text or something by now? I haven't text him as I would rather put the ball in his court. I would guess he's not that fussed about me if he's not dropped me a text over the weekend, even just to say hi. What do you think?

[Sqad]

Barmaid.......LOL....I glanced at that but it was under Animals and Nature so i lost interest as i have never had to resort to animals....;-)

mizy.....YOU may be the only "show in town" for HIM.

What IS the big deal?

[mizfiesta]

lol @Barmaid

[mizfiesta]

Hi Sqad, sorry for being naive but what do you mean by the 'only show in town'?

[jim360]

Even a reply back after a week is something. Keep texting with him and see where he wants to take it... but more importantly, decide what you want. To see him again, or not?

A week is a fairly short time and based on his schedule I'd say he's got back to you pretty much as soon as he felt he could, so that speaks volumes for me. So do reply back, just in a friendly way -- "Yeah, been great thanks, how was ours? Enjoy your daughter's visit?" No more or less than that sort of thing.

[Sqad]

LOL......mizzy darling.....you are the only one in the frame for him and he is the only one in the frame for you.................at the moment.

For God's sake woman do you want me to draw you a picture?

[mizfiesta]

Society, I just always think if I guy is truly interested he would show a bit more interest? I mean there's playing it cool then there's just brrr freezing! :) A whole week? I thought men were meant to like the pursuit?

[mizfiesta]

Lol @sqad :) Yea ok I get your point.

[mizfiesta]

Jim360 yea sounds like sensible advice, thanks. There will be no winners if I don't give him the benefit of the doubt I guess.

[jim360]

In my admittedly limited experience the man has to tread a fine line between looking keen and looking desperate. Maybe he felt that texting any sooner would be looking too desperate. So, if you like him enough, or want to see him again, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for now.

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

Miz you said yourself that you wanted to get to know him slowly. Why does he have to have a dash on but you can take your sweet time?
Text him back and see what happens next.

[murraymints]

I really don't think you've any grounds to doubt, as I said he DID say he'd have daughter till yesterday !

[pixie373]

Daughter or not, he was perfectly capable of sending a text. I still go by my three options above. Just decide yourself how much you like him and if you want to see him again. And then tell him. Lol:-)

[pastafreak]

I think you are being way too hard on him. He said *why* he would be busy...and TBH,I'm sure at this early stage his daughter is going to take precedence over you. He *has* gotten in touch-what more do you expect so soon. Do às others have said...send a friendly text to him...and don't play games just because he does not appear as keen as you think he shoud be.That makes you look bad. Give him a chance. He may be the slow and steady type.

[boxtops]

miz, you posted on here by mistake http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Relationships-and-Dating/Question1282304.html#answer-8418692

[pixie373]

I saw your reply, miz on other thread. I agree. Go with your instinct.

[mizfiesta]

Pixie I'm inclined to agree to be honest. A text takes seconds to send. I replied to his text and he's asked me if I'm busy tomorrow night. I'm not busy but I'm not going to agree to see him. I'll make an excuse. My gut instinct is telling me not to agree to see him tomorrow night. If he likes me he'll ask me out another time. I hope I'm not being overly obtuse.

[pixie373]

I think the thing is that lots of posts are to help her make a good impression, not appear needy/pushy etc. You don't want to just attract a man though- you want the right one. And you can only find him by being yourself and being honest. If you want to text him, do. If he can't handle that, he isn't right for you.

[mizfiesta]

He asked me out tomorrow night and I've declined. I just said I had plans and it was a bit short notice. He suggested next week sometime to which I said 'yea, sure' kind of thing. The ball is in his court. Hopefully he'll think to give me some more notice. Or he may decide I'm not worth the hassle. Who knows. But my gut instinct wasn't letting me go out with him tomorrow night, that's for sure.

Ps you are all brilliant. I really appreciate the help and advice. Truly.

[pixie373]

Make him work! Lol. Let us know how it goes x

[mizfiesta]

Pixie I will! I'll be back with an update x