Dating Advice

[mizfiesta]

I met a guy recently on a dating website - he seems like a decent chap. We met for the first time last weekend - we just met up briefly on the Saturday evening for a soft drink to see if we liked each other.

He then asked me out for a meal on the Wednesday. The meal went well enough. He text me when I got home to say he had nice time and asked if he could see me again to which I replied I'd be happy to. He was having his daughter to stay from Saturday (yesterday) to Tuesday so I said I would leave it up to him on the when/where.

Anyway I've not heard anything back from him since Wednesday night. It's now Sunday. I thought he would've dropped me a text or something by now? I haven't text him as I would rather put the ball in his court. I would guess he's not that fussed about me if he's not dropped me a text over the weekend, even just to say hi. What do you think?

[ummmm]

Friday night might be lads night out.

[Sqad]

mitzi....sorry to interrupt, but whist i have got you (so to speak ;-)(...your mother had an odd lung lesion on X-Ray about 9 months ago and probably had a lung biopsy.........what was the result?

[pixie373]

It does sound as though neither of you are particularly bothered. How much do you want to see him? If it's less than 9 out of 10, keep looking.

[ClaryS]

I knew a man once who had Wednesday as his 'bit on the side' night (not with me!!) I would be wary of anyone who only wanted to go out on a certain day, and didn't bother to phone or text in between times. My advice would be move on, and maybe try and socialise outside the home and not rely on dating sites.

[Sqad]

Clarys

\\\\I knew a man once who had Wednesday as his 'bit on the side' night (not with me!!)\\

LOL....LOL..was it the same "bit" and it wasn't you....yeah! right....;-)

[mizfiesta]

Sqad, yea my mum had an xray and something strange had shown up so they sent her for a scan. My mum is not the best at relaying things she's been told (especially medical talk) but it wasn't anything serious. She already has COPD (Emphysema) and I think it may have been something to do with that.

[mizfiesta]

Pixie yea I would like to see him again - he seems like a nice guy. I guess it's just that internet dating is a bit of a lottery and making I'm being too guarded.

Clarys, yea I really wouldn't want to be messed about by someone like that - it's trying to get a balance with being aware - or highly suspicious! :)

Trigger I'm just been letting things unfold to see what happens thus far and I'm trying not to let my paranoia get in the way :)

[mizfiesta]

Hey I don't even know what I'm banging on about anyway - I haven't even been asked out on date No4 yet. He usually asks me out on a Tuesday evening at 6.30pm (wonder if that's when the wife goes out to work lol).

[237SJ]

If he`s still got his profile up and is online then he is still looking. The trouble with these dating sites is that they can create a culture where people don`t want to make a commitment because there are plenty of other people just around the corner. If a man wants you, he wants you and probably won`t want to let you get away by playing silly games. If I was you, I would just get back in there and keep perusing the dating site. If he comes back, so be it but if he doesn`t because he is scouting the field, then two can play at that game!

[mizfiesta]

Just got a text...asking me out for date No4...wonders will never cease.

[pixie373]

I agree, 237. I think the problem is that you're letting him make all the decisions, which leaves you waiting around, unsure. He might also see it that you aren't worried about contacting him, but will go out if he asks. Instead if waiting until Tuesday, contact him yourself and suggest a day.

[ClaryS]

Sqad you naughty boy I would never be anyone's bit on the side :-). Main meal for me or nothing lol!

[Sqad]

mizzy....good news....you have made it into the team....don't blow your chance.

Being second best is not all bad, it could even be only temporary....remember David Beckham was in the reserves to start with.

He will, of course need a little on account.......a bit of ....well breast may not go amiss.....but do what you feel (not necessarily what is right ;-))

sqad is getting interested now.

Good luck and if you want to know what to wear.......I am your man....

[mizfiesta]

Lol @Sqad. Loving the David Beckham analogy :)

I'll keep you posted. PS right, go on then, what do you suggest I wear? Bearing in mind we're going for a pub meal :)

[Sqad]

mizzy......well ideally I would need to know your vital statistics and your height and perhaps length of hair.
Also, if you just want a pleasant evening or if you are " up for it.".......4 th date, you should know by now.

If you are not tall, not well endowed and a little " reserved" then I would go for a knee length, buttoned down the front ( whole length) dark fairly figure hugging dress.

If tall, adequate vital statistics, then it would go for a red silk blouse, top two buttons undone and a black knee length tight skirt.

God, you are a woman, so dress like one.

Underwear......matching of course and I cannot give any advice as I do not know your vital statistics.

Perfume...expensive and perhaps a little "over the top."

Good luck.

[jim360]

Wear what you want to, miz, rather than what Sqad wants to see you in.

Also, relax, and stop panicking about his motives. Until you aren't actually a couple he has no reason not to keep his eyes on the website, and you have no reason not to either. So far you've found a guy who has asked you out for several dates. He's more than just interested in you (if you were meant as a "bit on the side", by now I'm sure Mr. Player would have lost interest...), so if you are in him, let it play out and try to relax about it all.

How you dress, if you're worried about that, ought to depend on what you feel comfortable in. If you still aren't sure what you want, then dress accordingly, and if you are, then dress for that, too. Either way, I think he likes you, so the next bit is to decide whether or not you like him back. You'll find making that decision rather a lot easier if you're just a bit less paranoid.

[Tilly2]

Sqad,

'If tall, adequate vital statistics, then it would go for a red silk blouse, top two buttons undone and a black knee length tight skirt.'

That is so eighties!

[Sqad]

Jim.....

\\\\Wear what you want to, miz, rather than what Sqad wants to see you in. \\\

She ASKED for my advice.........and you are assuming quite a lot, early on.

Tilly......I know, I know, but my answer and advice was what, as a man, I would be looking for.

[society]

Sqad, whenever I spot your name on here instantly comes to mind is silk, lace and ibuprofen. :) :)