Teddy, when my husband was 22 he suffered from kidney failure He'd had one girlfriend before that, but at that point he decided he would never be able to have a normal relationship due to his illness, and gave up on looking for one. He was single for the next 25 years and resigned to being that way for the rest of his life. He thought he was undesirable and that no one would want him. His sister encouraged him to join dating sites etc, but he declined. What he didn't know was that I'd had a huge crush on him for years (we work together) but never had the guts to let on. We finally got together when he was 47 and are very happy 6 years down the line. Sometimes you find love where you least expect it, and there may already be some shy lady out there who is thinking about you at this very moment. Don't be too desperate, it'll come to you. Good luck x